Stand In Your Own Light

Posted in Home, Life, Uncategorized
on December 29, 2015
We live in a world that tells women to be self confident but if they acknowledge their own beauty, they’re viewed as conceited. We live in a world that tells us that education is imperative but if a person acknowledges their own intelligence, they’re viewed as a snob. We’re told to love and take care of ourselves is important but when we chose ourselves over others, we are called selfish. These double messages are confusing and we are left to wade through them, never knowing if we’re being perceived in just the “right,” way. It can really tax our mental and emotional health trying to keep up with what others think or say about us. I want to tell you not to care. In many ways that can be unrealistic, so I’m saying not to care to the point that it clouds your ability to discern. 
 
One of our basic human needs is to feel loved and accepted. However, this need doesn’t factor in if  people  may resent you for reasons that are beyond your control. Needing to feel accepted often clouds one’s ability to judge others true intentions. Everyone will not think that you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread and you have to be okay with that. It’s their loss, really.
 
Standing in your own light may cost you relationships. If you have been shy and unassuming and now you’re beginning to acknowledge and walk in your own brilliance, it may scare some away. People don’t like change. When you start altering their perception of who you are or what your potential is, they will often reject you. This is something you must be prepared for if you want to live up to your highest potential. We’re either going to go after our goals with reckless abandon or we’re going to choose a life that doesn’t offend anyone and doesn’t impact anyone. The dreams in your heart were put there for a reason. Be brave. Stand In Your Own Light. 
  • Robin Rue

    This is great advice. I definitley stand in my own light.

  • I really enjoy reading your posts. It took me a long time to realize that standing in my own light was worth what it might cost me. And it always has a cost.

  • Becca

    Wow, the last paragraph of this post really hit me. I have lost a friend in the last 6 months or so due to him just being mean to me all the time and me not wanting to take it anymore. He recently tried to blame me for not saying something to him, but you really shouldn’t have to tell people to be nice to you!

  • Meagan Ivie

    You’re an inspiration. Standing in your own light despite any consequences can be hard, but so worth it!

  • Obviously MARvelous

    I am extremely outspoken, brutally honest and always tend to say what is on my mind. These traits have created a few issues for me over the years but I refuse to allow anyone to change who I am or dull my sparkle!

  • This is very inspiring. Independence is a wonderful thing. I definitely think people should be themselves!

  • Lori Gunn

    With few exceptions, I stand in my own light. Your explanation is right on. It costs relationships and earns some mean remarks. It’s hard to do, but worth it.

  • I agree we have to go after our dreams and creating the life we want for ourselves. Everyone may not be on board but we have to go for it anyway.

  • Toni Dash

    Amen! I love this post and your photo! It’s so empowering and right on.

  • Christi

    This is the message I try to instill in my kids. Love this post!

  • This is such a true statement! Sometimes people think when you are stepping into your own light it is taking away from theirs.

  • Kim Byars Croisant

    So true so true. I love that you posted this from your own heart. Happy New Year.

  • Love the positivity. We should all be proud of who we are.

  • This is such an uplifting post! I need to stand in my own light more I think.

  • I truly love this message! So inspiring and encouraging! Perfect to start the new year!

  • Emerald112

    Thanks so much Ben. And yes, it always cost.

  • Reading this at the right time and appreciate your bravery in telling this truth!! Thanks as always Emerald!

  • Emerald112

    I see you doing amazing things Denise! I love your work!

  • Emerald112

    I’m so glad that you enjoyed it love! Thanks for stopping by Makeba! πŸ™‚

  • Emerald112

    Yes you should Stefany! It’s the only way to live authentically!

  • Emerald112

    Absolutely, so many people shy away from their light because their talent makes others feel uncomfortable!

  • Emerald112

    Awww thanks Kim! Happy New Year to you as well! πŸ™‚

  • Emerald112

    Yes Kiwi and that’s a state of mind that we have to avoid at all cost. God has enough blessings for everyone!

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