dressing up to feel fabulous!

Posted in Home, Inspiration, Life
on May 10, 2016
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Everyday I walk my daughter to school and I also walk to get her in the evening. Well, I drive on rainy days or if I’m short on time because her school is very close. Whenever I walk, I see other parents, many around my same age or older, walking their children to school as well. Most people wear very relaxed clothes. It’s not uncommon to see mom’s in jeans and a loose tee shirt, jogging pants or even gym clothes and shades….can’t forget the shades. I’m the queen of comfortable, from clothing to shoes, opting for a nice wedge or flat vs. a stiletto heel. However, I didn’t want to fall into the deception that stylish equals uncomfortable. It’s simply not true. A long flowy dress is probably one of the most comfortable things to wear. You just slip it over your head and you’re good to go!
I work from home and I noticed that I was wearing jogging pants all the time or even jeans and a tee shirt. Don’t get me wrong, jeans and a tee shirt can be dressed up, but I’m not talking about when you add a statement necklace, bracelets and cute shoes. I’m talking about the jeans you always wear with one of your regular ole tee shirts. So I got to thinking about how I want to feel when I’m out and how much better my day goes when I put a little extra effort into the way I look. It’s almost like dressing well creates a confidence force field around you, making you walk taller and smile more! I decided to dress up a few more days in the week. Wouldn’t you know that people actually respond to you differently when you’re dressed nicer? Studies have shown that people view others who dress well as more successful.
Recently, I did a photoshoot and it was so fun to dress up and have my makeup done by a professional makeup artist. Years ago, I wouldn’t have even thought to hire anyone, I would have just did my own makeup and hoped it looked ok. I actually think it’s a great idea to do a photoshoot every once in a while. Sometimes we forget how special and beautiful we are and there’s nothing like tangible proof to give you a boost of confidence on your down days. Although you may get a few looks because you don’t have on the regular “mom uniform,” atlleast it’s something that you can feel good about. And you don’t need a reason to look nice.
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Loving and valuing yourself is something that you don’t want lose sight of. Yes, you are a mother and yes you are a wife…..but you’re also YOU! I’m not going to wait for a special occasion to look nice. Everyday we’re alive is a cause to celebrate and be thankful. Please don’t think I’m going to be walking around in ball gowns to Chloe’s school, but I am going to try a little harder and be more cognizant of how I’m presenting myself
What things have you found give you a boost of confidence?
Chat soon!
emeraldsig
  • Dressing up… So something I DO NOT DO! None of my friends have ever seen me in a dress! LOL! On my wedding day I may make a few people faint – LOL!

  • Christopher Lavender

    I agree with this 100%. There is something about putting on a suit that makes me fill ready to take on the world, and I am glad I get to take it on with someone who is a great mother ,an amazingly beautiful wife, and a woman that continues to amaze and inspire me. #Blessed #ImWinning

  • Emerald

    It’s all about wearing what makes you feel most confident GiGi! For me, that’s a pretty dress. It’s different for everyone and congratulations on your wedding! πŸ™‚

  • Emerald

    What a beautiful thing to say Chris. This really warmed my heart! I can’t lie, you are blessed..lol!!!…but I’m blessed too baby. Love you. πŸ™‚

  • It’s always fun to dress up from time to time. It makes a woman, especially a mom, feel beautiful. I always make it a point to dress the way I want, that gives me confidence.

  • Akhil Sharma

    Obviously, one should value and love him/her self. There is a topic in management studies called personality development, which incorporates “how someone can develop his or her personality” by giving respect to his or her own self. Self confidence result in great personality.

  • Rebecca Swenor

    This is indeed something I have been thinking about more lately. I mostly wear sweat pants and t-shirts. I think it is important for us to dress up sometimes. It does make me feel better about myself when I pay attention to how I look. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Karla Ramos

    That part about the way people interacting with you depending on what you’re wearing…I’ve seen it all to be true all the time. While it’s wrong to judge people easily, the first impression’s always something we should stand for in every way. Love the pink here!

  • Hi Emerald,
    You look smashing for sure.

    How so true this is. I have gotten into the habit of even working in my pajamas…sometimes. perks for working from home. Since my children are big enough to get to school by bus, I dont have to go out in the morning either. So I really do feel this post. I also made a conscious decision to dress up just because i can Afterall who is gonna wear them clothes if I dont and how will I tell if I have outgrown them or not…sitting on one’s but all day can do that lol! Yes everyday is a gift as we better embrace it, including dressing up. πŸ™‚

  • RebelSweetHrt

    I’m a jeans and t-shirt girl ever since, and I usually save the dresses/skirts/heels for special occasions. But one thing’s for sure – I can never and will never leave the house without makeup on. πŸ™‚

  • Emerald

    Well that’s a good standard that you keep for yourself!

  • Emerald

    Thank you Julie! It’s easy to fall into a rut when we have children and so many responsibilities. You’re a beautiful woman and the world needs to see all that beauty!

  • Emerald

    I’m glad you liked the article! And it’s true that people judge us based on how we carry ourselves.

  • Emerald

    Thanks for coming by Rebecca!

  • Emerald

    Akhil, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt in regards to the usage of the word “obviously.” Because you are not a mother to multiple children, you’ll never understand what it is to completely take care of someone else and have little energy left for yourself.

  • Emerald

    *high five* Mai!

  • I’m with you – you don’t need a reason to look nice! Great post!

  • Akhil Sharma

    Obviously means something clear and I can easily perceive it. However, I do not judge people like you judged me; “you’ll never understand what it is to take care of someone else”. My mother (56) is bed ridden from past 15 years. She can’t even change sides on her own. she is suffering from rheumatoid arthritis and most of her joints are deformed; both hip replaced and a knee fusion surgery. I am an engineer by education, 27 year old unmarried, only child of parents. I am not doing 9-5 job like my friends, because I am taking care of my mother; helping her sit, exercise, sponge, cooking, and more. Nevertheless, I work from home and I am doing well. Please try not to judge others. Have a nice day ahead πŸ™‚

  • Emerald

    “Obviously,” can have several meanings, depending on the context of the sentence. Your use of the word “obviously,” came off as facetious in this context of women taking time out to care for themselves. I’m sorry to hear about your mother. Maybe next time you comment, you’ll take the time to understand what perceived impact you may have. The word “obviously,” is more times than not used in a way that is condescending.

  • Akhil Sharma

    We can have scintillating conversation regarding the context, but I don’t want to involve in it. Everything can have several meanings and it is up to you how you take it. I just requested you not to judge people. It is also up to you πŸ™‚

  • Nicole Cochingco Escat

    First, a friend of mine would really love to visit your site because she is so pink addict. Second, you’re right! Being at home gives us a feeling of…”Okay everyday is just a usual day” but hey! Dressing up is also a recreational activity plus it is really fun. Don’t care being a mom, you are still a woman!

  • Lexie Lane

    You’re look gorgeous. I’m also love dressing myself even I’m already mom.

  • Lisa Rios

    I can almost relate myself with you as I work from home as well. I agree, despite being a wife & a mother you definitely need to love & value yourself & make sure you look the best anytime or atleast during those special occasions.

  • Emerald

    thank you Lexie! xo!

  • Emerald

    absolutely Nicole!

  • Emerald

    Amen chica!

  • Wulf

    I’m a university student. Back in high school, I decided to make a conscious effort to look put together every day, no matter how much I really just wanted to sleep in until the last minute in the morning on school days. A lot of girls wore sweats and yoga pants to school all the time- which is perfectly fine.

    I wasn’t sure anyone noticed at all what I was wearing- save for the occasional, though regularly occcuring, exclamation: “Your dress!” “That barrette!” “Oh my gosh I love your skirt” -even sometimes from boys I’d hear, “Those tennis shoes are sick!” & in winter, “Those snow boots actually look pretty cool,” and the oft-asked, “Whoa nice winter hat, hey where did you find that?” (“Umm, Hollmenkoll, Norway, actually”).

    Still, these confidence-boosting compliments were rare enough to always be unexpected. Regardless, I continued to bother putting together real outfits each day- it had become rather fun for me!

    Were my efforts noticed? Evidently, far more than I would have ever imagined. As my class flipped through yearbooks just a few days before our graduation, I was suddenly so stunned with gratitude when I opened the page with my Senior Photo in my yearbook that it nearly brought tears to my eyes (you know how teenagers are always so dramatic). Beneath my photo was my name, and beneath that were two words I had never imagined would be paired with my photograph: “Best Dressed.”

  • Emerald

    What a wonderful story! I’m so happy that you shared it! It’s so true that we often think that no one is paying attention, but it’s the farthest thing from the truth. When you least expect it, you will be rewarded for your efforts. I believe our efforts are already rewarded when we take the time to care for ourselves. Also, you’re an amazing writer and I urge you to start a writing career if you have not already considered it!

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