We have more control over our lives than we give ourselves credit for. On second thought, I do believe that we know how much control we have, but exercising our right to do so is certain to ruffle some feathers. And we don’t want to do that. How many relationships are you constantly paying into with no little to no payout?
I’m not saying that you give to receive but healthy relationships are mostly reciprocal unless you’re mentoring someone. How you choose to spend your time and energy is valuable. There’s an ideology that promotes allowing others to use you, like it’s the noble thing to do. I do no ascribe to it.
In their plight to be liked by everyone, women often get caught up in doing things they don’t want to do. Setting boundaries is one of the most solid things you can do for yourself. People treat you how they perceive you and how they perceive you is assessed by how you treat yourself. As I get older, I gain more understanding about my right to set boundaries for anyone on anything that imposes on my peace and I won’t ever apologize for that. Here’s to knowing that you can be nice and no-nonsense simultaneously!
Have you ever felt like you were the only person giving in a relationship? What did you do?
I’ve logged in some hours watching youtube makeup tutorials and I’m still not nearly as good as the ladies I watch. It’s amazing to see someone transform right in front of your eyes. I haven’t perfected contouring or highlighting but I like to believe I do a decent job. When it comes to eyeshadows, I usually stay in browns and golds because it looks good with my eye color. I’m always on the lookout for products that actually perform. Today I’m sharing the 4 beauty products/tips that really work. Without further ado, let’s get into it!
Mary Kay Ultimate Mascara
I know Mary Kay has been around a long time and it’s for good reason. I’ve tried many of the pricier mascaras from Marc Jacobs to Clinique and I always end up coming back to Mary Kay’s Ultimate Mascara. I don’t have long or dark eyelashes and this lengthens the little bit I do have and makes them noticeable. I’ve been buying this mascara for over 8 years and it’s a solid product that is well priced and lengthens lashes.
Too Faced Sweet Peach Palette
Chris recently bought me this palette for Valentine’s Day (per my request) and I love it. There are so many neutral and beautiful colors in this palette. The pigment is very rich and I can tell a stark difference between any of my other eyeshadows and this one. The quality is hands and feet above the rest. These gorgeous colors are worth the coins.
For those of us not born with lush eyebrows, a good brow pencil is worth it’s weight in gold. Although I don’t believe it really matters which kind you buy as long as it matches your normal eyebrow hair and you’re not too heavy handed.
Olive Oil/Avacado Oil for Oil Cleansing
I don’t wash my face with a foaming cleanser unless I’m having some type of breakout. (which isn’t often) I wash my face with oil and it has done wonders for my skin. Many days I don’t wear foundation at all and just let my freckles shine on through. If you take care of your skin and get some sleep at night, you’re on the road to great skin.
I took a selfie yesterday using the products I mentioned here!
So what are your favorite beauty products that you’ve continued to buy over the years? I’d love to hear your tried and true favorites!
Some believe that people are being facetious when they tell them to “think positive.” It’s been said a million times but we often struggle with it all the same. Somehow, we believe that by factoring every possible outcome of a situation that we are being a “realist,” or protecting ourselves, but quite the opposite is true. Thinking positive not only makes us more pleasant to be around, it physically changes our brains. Thoughts are physical things that occupy mental real estate. Thinking negatively is akin to spreading an infection throughout your brain.
I don’t often talk about the books I’m reading on my blog unless I feel they are worth mentioning.
Dr. Caroline Leaf’s book “Switch on Your Brain,” is an enlightening read. She’s a cognitive neuroscientist with over 30 years’ experience studying and researching the mind and brain connection.
-Although technical in nature, Dr. Leaf writes about the brain’s ability to change in a relatable way.
-She teaches exactly how to alter traumatic or bad memories by implementing a 5-step process.
– Explains at length how much how we think not only affects our lives but alters our physical brain and thinking processes.
-When you’re stressed, your brain shuts down several parts and only activates the part that it needs to protect itself. There’s no way you’re producing your best work when you’re stressed because you don’t have access to all the parts of your brain.
Whereas scientist believed in the past that we were all born with a set level of intelligence and skill, neuroplasticity proves that a person can become more intelligent and overcome weaknesses through consistently being positive in their thoughts and actions. Many of the sicknesses we face are because of stress. Stress weakens our immune system and makes it harder to fight off diseases.
So, the next time someone tells you “think positive,” remember that good things really do happen when we consider the good in our lives.
I’ve been seeing so many beautiful homes that incorporate plants as accessories. In all the living spaces, they injected an undeniable fresh and organic vibe. No matter what the style and decor of your home is, plants can only make it better. What I found most intriguing about them was that many plants can clean the air in your home. Since we spend most of our time inside, indoor plants can end up contributing to our overall well-being.
I have seasonal allergies and think that indoor plants could help in some way. Also, if you or your child suffer with asthma, it couldn’t hurt to invest in air cleansing plants that could possibly eliminate airborne triggers. Check out these plants that perform double duty by beautifying your home and purifying the air.
Aloe Vera Plant
Aloe Vera plants love light, so place them somewhere they’ll receive all the sun love they crave. Aloe Vera plants remove both formaldehyde and benzene from the air. These toxic chemicals are common in many household cleaners. The Aloe Vera plant also produces a thick liquid that is excellent for healing cuts and burns.
This Gerber Daisy is vibrantly colored and loves sunlight. It removes trichloroethylene, which is a commonly used chemical at the dry cleaners. If aesthetics is what you’re after, this daisy answers the call with its wide leaves and bursting blossoms.
The Bamboo Palm grows 5 to 7 feet tall and loves humidity and indirect sunlight. This plant removes benzene and trichloroethylene and is native to Mexico and Central America.
Photo: Martin Olsson Snake Plant
With its wavy and sharp leaves stretching towards the ceiling, the Snake Plant thrives in low light and humidity. What I found the most interesting about the Snake Plant is it absorbs carbon dioxide and releases oxygen at night. This makes it a great plant for your bedroom to get some night time fresh air.
These colorful flowers are amazing for brightening up the decor in any room. Its gorgeous petals flower beautifully and filter out benzene. These colorful plants flourish in direct sunlight and come in every color except for blue, so you’re sure to find one to match your surrounding decor.
Do you have any indoor plants? Have you experienced any positive results with them?
I have found that the promises that are the most important are the one’s we make to ourselves. I believe that you should keep your word to everyone, but most people tend to break their promises to themselves much easier than if someone else is involved. When we’re dealing with others there is a sense of true accountability and that is the same level of commitment we should have towards ourselves.
So many times I promised myself I would go to the gym more, or dress up more or read certain books. Then a series of events somehow throws my momentum off and I let that commitment to myself go. I think “hey, it’s just me, so no one will know.” But our minds are always keeping score. Self esteem and confidence are directly connected to our overall well-being and if we can’t be trusted to keep a promise to ourselves, what else can’t we be trusted with? Before you can move to the next level, you have to conquer the level before it….right?
These days I take the promises I make to myself much more seriously because I understand that life is not a dress rehearsal and no one becomes successful by accident. We must force accountability on ourselves if we ever plan to change. The only sustainable model for lasting change is to make our new habits apart of our daily lives.
How do you keep yourself accountable to yourself?